It’s not always easy to forgive. When we’ve been deeply hurt, holding on to those memories can seem to protect us from getting hurt again, but they don’t. If we keep reminding ourselves of the hurt, we think it protects us. But instead, we keep reliving and continuing to feel…

I recently heard a report that most people lie over thirty times a day. I found this hard to believe, so I self-evaluated to see if it was true. I was shocked to realize I’d told several lies within an hour. I lied that it was okay to run a…

After more than three decades of working with families suffering from addiction, it’s pretty easy to identify the winners from the losers. I’m not being critical. Winning and losing aren’t random. You simply can’t sign up for two teams simultaneously. …

Do you know someone who almost always seems happy? Do you wonder if they are simply blessed with a cheery disposition while others aren’t? It’s true that some people naturally have upbeat personalities, but happiness is deeper than genetic predisposition. …

With all that’s happening in the world, many people feel emotionally out of control. They feel triggered by news, traffic, and the slightest change in plans. They feel angry and don’t know why. But if you understand that you’re not mad, you’re scared; you can master both emotions and learn…

Some people think that spirituality is instantaneous. Spiritual growth is an ongoing learning process, even for those who have a white light experience. Some people grow fast, and others, not so fast. Spirituality is like anything else. You must want to learn and grow and then put forth the effort. …

It might seem ridiculous to hear that all addiction is rooted in fear, but it’s true. Fear keeps everyone stuck in any behavior, and addiction is no different. That’s why most people must hit bottom before being willing to change. At this point, the fear of continuing (going to jail…

I recently spoke with someone twenty-five years sober who said, “I’m going to write a book someday, but it’s not going to be for the addict. It’s going to be directed to the people who enable the addict. …

The concept of loving oneself is the most difficult for people to grasp. We’ve learned to equate love with feeling good, and they’re not the same. Acts of love don’t always feel good at first, especially when letting go of something that temporarily uplifts you. …